My work with high achieving people pleasers almost always involves helping my clients having their dream life in some form of another (which they may have been actively neglecting allowing themselves to even think about for some time) and recovering from burnout. (Typically, these are one in the same.) Nearly everyone wants to have their dream life. However, many people will fall short of truly embracing a life that feels good to them. This can all be fixed with a well-rounded approach and targeted strategies designed to help others live a life of their dreams. Every time I’ve helped someone master these strategies, their lives have drastically changed for the better. There’s no way around it. Living in alignment with your values and your dreams (read: yourself) is the only way to “have it all.” It’s the only way to have your dream life. Here are some of the most common themes I see in my practice with high achieving people pleasers, including common blocks and their corresponding solutions:   1. You are trying to “fix” yourself first before you can have the things you want. Instead, give yourself permission to have what you want right now – with no contingencies.                2. You are asking others’ permission and seeking others’ approval to have your big dreams and goals. Instead, put your values-driven goals ahead of all else.                3. You might not even have values-driven goals yet; you may be doing the “life checklist” of what you think you “should” do as your guiding force. Creating values-aligned goals sets your whole life up for thriving success and freedom-based living.                4. You do not see yourself as your own guiding light. By default, this makes your stand-in “master” things like external validation, fear, and avoidance of pain. Become your own master, take inventory of what your intention is in each thing you are doing, and you will feel empowered, fulfilled, peaceful, and in control over your life.                5. Your boundaries may not be as firm as you need them to be to feel good in your relationships. Learn what a boundary is, how to set them, and how to use them to reach the next level in your love, career, and financial worlds. (Hint: There are explicit rules here — master these rules, and become unstoppable!)                6. You are using your past or your present to define your future. There’s an abundance of research coming out saying that the more connected we are to the future version of ourselves we want to be, the more fulfilled and successful we are in the long run. Focus on Future You, use your new shiny boundaries, and watch your goals skyrocket. Future You would do it!                7. Make an action plan for reaching your goals. Dream lives do not happen unintentionally or accidentally. But there are also rules for action plans; including – be flexible with, be curious of, and problem-solve any and all inconveniences. Catastrophizing has no place in Dream Living; adaptability and connection to Future You are the friends of action planning.                8. Create a network of people who have the things that you want (versus a network of people who are merely proximal to you or that are there “just because”). Recreate their thinking and habits. There are rules for this, as well: take advice ONLY from those that have what you want, nurture only healthy relationships, and be willing to be teachable and coachable (read: vulnerable).                9. Get comfortable with people disagreeing with your values, goals, and plans. People pleasers often want to “prove” to others they are doing something that is okay; Future You wouldn’t agree with this. People who want to support you, will – without cajoling or forcing. See things and people for what they are truly willing to offer you – nothing more, nothing less.                10. Always stay connected to your vision. Each day, ask what your intention is today, what values you are fulfilling. When things are difficult, ask how you can stay values-aligned in that moment and what Future You would do. When we move away from our vision, we hitch our wagon to someone else’s vision and dreams; this is when we feel most burned out and unappreciated. Connection to our vision is the antidote to this. This list isn’t all-inclusive, nor prescriptive. However, it’s an excellent starting point. Apply these strategies and watch your life change drastically. Want to know more specifics about how this would look in practice and potentially change your whole life? We have courses launching soon – sign up for our waitlist!